1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV / Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
Proverbs 27:17 ESV /
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
I don’t like to sugar coat things, most time I will say things plainly especially if I love you.
I was not always compassionate with my approach, over the years and by choking on my words I wish I could take back I have learned to be honest without borderlining cruel.
I speak plainly about myself and many do not know how to receive that well. It’s ok, it’s how I do life.
I am what I am, popular is not a personal priority, I do however hold my standards that I am accountable to the Lord. I do not want to be a person that causes another “man” to stumble.
Surrounding yourself with people that hold you accountable is treasure worth investing time and energy in. I want people to say, “I love you but it’s time to stop hiding behind this excuse and ______!”
Or Jenn, I love you but I don’t agree and so I will pray for you and support you but this is what my heart believes!
For many years I have let “myself” go, I did not give energy to my personal needs including self care. I would feel guilty spending time improving myself, spending money on things for me, but instead poured out until I was drained and bitter if I am being honest. There was a time where I spent life in a constant state of “survival mode.” If you are in a season, maybe a child struggling with illness, the throws of motherhood, single parenting, or going through a trial…there is a time of adjustment but do not stay stagnant in that space!
I have been there! More times than I can count sometimes it was out of my control and sometimes it was out of throwing in the towel and accepting this as life.
But God wants us to live a full life even through trials. Grab the hand of someone positive around you and lean into one another. God always provides people who will hold you accountable, astonishingly you will see where you will also be the answer to their prayers. It’s amazing how that works.
I think the day my husband truly fell in love with me was when we had just begun dating and I stood up him.
I can think of two instances where he looked at me as if no one had ever spoken so plainly to him and it was not what he wanted to hear.
Wish I had a pic but I can still see his face when I said, “well I think you should take me home,” 10 minutes after arriving at a party with drinking and smoking, etc.
Another time was I was driving ( we were 19) and he had moved his seat belt as to not wrinkle his shirt. I pulled over and refused to drive until he was safe… He was so frustrated and yet so hooked.
Today, seventeen years of marriage behind us we hold each other accountable as spouses, as parents, as believers, as people.
Also, I seek out the people God has called into my life where I know they will speak life and truth to me, likewise I can’t be just a life-sucker…I have a responsibility to return the favor in love of course.
Right now I am taking an honest inventory of me.
I haven’t just set goals and hopes but a plan and accountability. God has blessed me with friendships that challenge me, encourage, and especially will not sugar coat places that need change. This is spiritual, physical, mental, moral, and all other aspects of life that are nearly impossible to go alone.
There are no excuses to being unhealthy and obese. I want a full life with confidence, you can’t have both.
I have friends who have stepped up to be accountability partners! So grateful for them!
If you are needing someone to help hold you accountable, with honest answers and prayers then message me! We can do his together!